Is it ok for a married woman to go on a date with a man that is not her husband?

When is it classed cheating? My good friend and I were discussing about girly stuff and we were debating on this issue. Can a married woman go on dates or have male friends that her husband is unaware of? When does it constitute cheating even without sex? What are your thoughts on this? 

Sex without protection

Would you?

Well this is what some students surveyed said.  Report states many male students  think having unprotected sex is like getting a 'trophy'. One student, 20, had unprotected sex with a man she knew had chlamydia. Experts purport that there is a 'massive STI problem' amongst students.

HIV is real!!! Protect yourself!!! My 2 cents!

Grandmother claims sperm facials are her anti-ageing secret

Are you into this sort of treatment? Would you give it a go?

Stella Ralfini

Speaking in a YouTube video, 67-year-old Stella Ralfini says that her key to eternal youth is semen facials - a tip she picked up on her travels in India.

And Stella isn't the only fan of this beauty regime. In an on-camera interview with TMZ, actress Heather Locklear, 51, was asked if she had any recommendations for anti-ageing skincare products.

'You just put semen on your face,' she replied.

According to NY magazine, human sperm is a powerful anti-oxidant that is said to diminish wrinkles and smooth the skin.

The substance is now even sold by a Norwegian company called Bioforskning and spermine facials are offered in New York.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artihttp://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2584176/Youthful-grandmother-67-claims-sperm-facials-anti-ageing-secret-shes-video-tutorial.html#ixzz2wRblwbcq cle-2584176/Youthful-grandmother-67-claims-sperm-facials-anti-ageing-secret-shes-video-tutorial.html#ixzz2wRblwbcq 

What were recruiters thinking of in Nigeria?

Snap shots of stadiums used for recruitment test.

A stampede among jobseekers taking a recruitment test in national stadium in Nigerian capital Abuja has left many people dead and injured. The stampede came during a recruitment exercise by the immigration department. Tens of thousands had turned up to take the test.

The Abuja stadium which is not to sit more than 60,000 people had well over 80,000 people. Did you know that each applicant paid £1,000 registration fee and there were over 2 million applicants (the level of corruption is unbelievable).

How was this allowed to happen? Whoever is in charge needs to be sacked. Words fail me.

Sinitta please give Simon Cowell some space!!!

Lauren, David Walliams, Louis Walsh, Sinitta and Simon Cowell

Can someone tell me if Sinitta has to show up everywhere Simon Cowell goes to? We know he is her friend etc but he has a new partner now. Can she give them some space now or actually focus on getting her own man?

Naomi Campbell is ready to have a baby- with or without a man

Naomi Campbell

Naomi Campbell has revealed she does want to have a baby regardless of  whether she has a partner or not. Naomi said 'I'm at an age where I've decided I do want to have a baby whether I'm with a man or not, I will have it on my own.'
Good luck Naomi. I am sure you have put a lot of thought to this knowing that being a single mother is not easy. 

She thought 'only Africans get HIV'

Rachel Dilley

Rachel Dilley, 48, a mother-of-three who had unprotected sex and contracted HIV says she never dreamed she was at risk of HIV - because 'only African people could get it'. She also mentioned that she had never known a white person to have HIV. It was in 2004, just short of her 40th birthday, when she embarked on online dating, having split from her partner of 20 years and the father of her children the year before. She began dating a man. She didn't use protection because according to her, due to her age, she knew she wouldn't get pregnant (unbelievable). 

I am not going to judge. Maybe some people are naive like her. This should be a lesson to all. Anyone can contract HIV regardless of race or ethnicity. 

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2579087/I-thought-people-Africa-got-HIV-says-mother-three-contracted-condition-holiday-romance.html#ixzz2vmQI5V6P 

Woman marries dog

I read this and couldn't help but share this with you.

Amanda and Sheba

Amanda Rodgers married her loyal dog, Sheba, in front of 200 people in Split, Croatia. Ms Rodgers has good reasons to marry her dog. She said ‘Sheba had been in my life for years, making me laugh and comforting me when I was feeling low,’ she said. ‘I couldn't think of anything more I’d need from a life partner.’ The ceremony took place in August 2012 and fulfilled all her dreams.

Sun glorious sun

I am so basking in this hot weather. I have been out and about today. The sun has just lifted my spirits up. People I have met today even seem happier. I pray it lasts and lasts. OK, here is what I plan to do this week. I plan to be positive and not let anything weigh me down. If you know me, then you know that sometimes, I can over analyse simple things, worry about things. So, I have made the decision to change things (I have tried previously though). I am going to speak positively, meditate on positive words as well as pronounce positive words over my life and situation. I am at a place where I need positivity. I am also going to limit the time I spend reading negative news on the papers or online. There is sad news everywhere and I know myself. It affects me immensely. So, I am going to try this little positive attitude this week. A friend gave me a book called "The Secret". I am yet to read it. Who has read it?

Where is the heat wave?

Earlier this week, the weather forecast was that there will be a heat wave this weekend in the UK. It was stated that the temperature in the UK would be higher than Greece. This made me so excited. I was over joyed. There is something about the sun that makes everywhere beautiful. Well, fast forward to the weekend, here I am still waiting and anticipating that the sun will shine, that the so forecasted heat wave will happen. So far, it is cold, dark and windy where I am at. Sniff!

Ash Wednesday

I woke up this morning, went straight to the freezer to get some meat to defrost. My plans for the meat was to make some delicious meal with it. I then got a text message from my sister. It is Ash Wednesday. Of course it is Ash Wednesday (the first day of Lent). I had spent some part of yesterday making pancakes. I really don’t understand the spiritual significance of pancake Tuesday but I joined in just because I fancied some pancakes. Anyway back to today. There was a part in my sister’s text message that intrigued me. It was about meat and Ash Wednesday. I was born a Catholic and used to practise everything to do with Catholicism. So, I remembered that on Ash Wednesdays, we go to mass, get the ash on our foreheads and importantly, we do not eat meat. However, since leaving the Catholic Church years ago, I have eaten meat on Ash Wednesdays. I honestly believe that I am not doing anything wrong by eating meat on Ash Wednesday.

However, the meat eating got to me. I felt a bit guilty that I was planning to have meat today. So, I went back and put the meat away. I went and got me some fish and made a lovely meal instead. I was still craving for meat but wanted to honour today. I must say that I kind of felt that I should not be eating meat today even though I am no longer a Catholic. What was your day like today?

Lupita Nyong'o on how she 'prayed for lighter skin' as a child before Hollywood success brought new confidence.

The beautiful Lupita Nyong'o

I read this and just felt I had to blog about this issue. I have seen and met so many Africans with low self-esteem and displaying typical slave trade mentality. I will talk more on this issue some other time.  Lupita’s speech was made at the Essence’s Black Women in Hollywood event. The 30-year old started her speech by reading a letter written to her by a young girl who viewed her as a role model.

The 30-year old started her speech by reading a letter written to her by a young girl who viewed her as a role model. Her speech goes as follows:

Thank you Alfre, for such an amazing, amazing introduction and celebration of my work. And thank you very much for inviting me to be a part of such an extraordinary community.

I am surrounded by people who have inspired me, women in particular whose presence on screen made me feel a little more seen and heard and understood. That it is ESSENCE that holds this event celebrating our professional gains of the year is significant, a beauty magazine that recognizes the beauty that we not just possess but also produce.

I want to take this opportunity to talk about beauty, Black beauty, dark beauty. I received a letter from a girl and I’d like to share just a small part of it with you: “Dear Lupita,” it reads, “I think you’re really lucky to be this Black but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s Whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you appeared on the world map and saved me.”

My heart bled a little when I read those words, I could never have guessed that my first job out of school would be so powerful in and of itself and that it would propel me to be such an image of hope in the same way that the women of The Color Purple were to me.

I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the miracle worker, was that I would wake up lighter-skinned. The morning would come and I would be so excited about seeing my new skin that I would refuse to look down at myself until I was in front of a mirror because I wanted to see my fair face first. And every day I experienced the same disappointment of being just as dark as I was the day before. I tried to negotiate with God, I told him I would stop stealing sugar cubes at night if he gave me what I wanted, I would listen to my mother’s every word and never lose my school sweater again if he just made me a little lighter. But I guess God was unimpressed with my bargaining chips because He never listened.

And when I was a teenager my self-hate grew worse, as you can imagine happens with adolescence. My mother reminded me often that she thought that I was beautiful but that was no conservation, she’s my mother, of course she’s supposed to think I am beautiful. And then…Alek Wek. A celebrated model, she was dark as night, she was on all of the runways and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful and that made it a fact. I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman who looked so much like me, as beautiful. My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome and all of a sudden Oprah was telling me it wasn’t. It was perplexing and I wanted to reject it because I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside of me, when I saw Alek I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny.

Now, I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty. But around me the preference for my skin prevailed, to the courters that I thought mattered I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.

And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsey in so much trouble with her master, but it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit even after the beauty of her body has faded away.

And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside.

There is no shame in Black beauty.