How not to make Akara

Akara is a Nigerian staple food and enjoyed by many. It is made with black eye beans and it is absolutely delicious.

 The ingredients for the meal is simply, Black eye beans.

To make Akara, you have to soak the beans and then peel the skin off the beans and blend. According to your taste, you may blend on its own and then add some salt and deep fry or 

As my sister loves it, add peppers and onions

I came up with a light bulb idea to add stiff egg white to the mix

 And it was a disaster!

 It soaked oil and was disgusting  (it went in the bin)

Akara should be fluffy as shown in this picture.

 My sister made this

So, never add stiff egg white to your Akara. If you do, your Akara will just go to waste!

Eating out!

Some years ago, I witnessed a lady cough up mucus and it went into the pot of stew she was making for people. She noticed I saw what she did and she started looking for the snot inside the pot of stew. I felt sick after witnessing that! I still eat out though! 

Enjoy this sketch 

Nigerian meal

I made this popular Nigerian dish called Egusi soup. The soup is eaten with pounded yam, ground rice or ground semolina, rice etc. I made the soup with roasted beef ribs and it was delicious.

Egusi soup

Roasted beef ribs

Beef ribs

Monday nuggets

Never ever give up! If you really want something, go for it and no matter how many time you fall, rise up! Never give in to those who mock you, slander your name, bring you down or jeer at you. Keep focused no matter the distraction. Stand strong in your truth no matter the mistakes. Learn from your mistakes and don't be too hard on yourself. Give yourself time to learn and grow and most of all, keep living your life!

More pictures of the snow

My mum having fun with my adorable nephews  😂

After the snow

Time to have some fun! 

Here comes the snow

What is achievement?

Today, I want to look at how achievement is constructed in Nigeria and why many Nigerians equate monetary success with it. 

I have noticed that in Nigeria, many people conflate achievement with wealth. My analysis starts with narratives from social media and personal interactions with people. Indeed, if you want to hurt a Nigerian, tell them how poor they are. A typical insult is as follows:

"You have not achieved anything in your life and you are not ashamed of yourself. You are not married, you are jobless".

Nigeria is a place not to be 'poor' even though many people are living below $1 a day. The term 'poor' by many Nigerians correlates to not having access to any luxury in life. I put emphasis on luxury, which by definition some mean to own cars, a house or houses and fly to different countries.  Oh, and also share this lifestyle on social media for all to see. If not, how will people know you are a success? It is not shocking to see pictures of people who have 'achieved in life' with money sprawled all around them and with captions on their pictures such as "Pepper dem". Afte all, what is an achievement, if you are not able to rub your success on the faces of the millions of 'poor' people? You see people commenting on such posts with comments as "I claim this in Jesus name". Hardly any question is asked about the source of the wealth.

Also, there is a timeframe for you to have achieved all these if not, you are still termed a failure. You have to have made millions in your 20s and as a woman, be married in your mid-twenties, if not, you are an old hag. God help the woman if she is in her 30s, no husband or children, then, menopause is used in ridiculing her and she is called different sorts of derisive names from aunty Gwegwegwe to Ashawo.

You see the pressure on young men and women stressing themselves to reach this social construct. You see young girls in their 20s depressed that they have not met any man to marry, young boys stressed they have not 'hammered'. 

The social construct of achievement is unrealistic and could put unnecessary pressure on young men and women or anyone. Do not be in a hurry, there is no time frame for you to achieve anything, you owe it to yourself to be strong and happy, do not get ill trying to live for others. It is OK to go through life learning and growing, life is not a competition, you do not have to conform to society or its pressures, never compromise, live for you. Be you!

I believe that achievement should be much more than monetary success. It can be meeting personal goals that we set for ourselves and it can be from small goals to big ones. 

What do you define as an achievement? 

'As a man, you need to discipline your wife' says Ugandan MP

Have you seen this?


Apparently, men need to discipline their wives. Twinamasiko Onesimus, who represents Bugangaizi East constituency made this shocking statement.

--> "As a man, you need to discipline your wife...touch her a bit, tackle her and beat her to streamline her"- Onesmus Twinamasiko, MP, Bugangaizi East following comments by Museveni that men who beat women are cowards and should face the full wrath of the law



Culled from BBC website

I am a warrior!

Enjoy a poem from me. To all the amazing women out there, happy international women's day!

I am a warrior

I do not underestimate my strength, for I know what I have been through and the battles that I fought and fight daily.

I appreciate the strength within that keeps me from crumbling and giving up.

I take charge of any situation that comes my way. I am always ready for battle even on days that I do not have the energy for it.

I do not and will not shy away from battles, I face them squarely, looking into its face and ready for whatever comes after.

I am a warrior. I have seen battles, been in the midst of it, experienced it and am still standing.

Don't you get it? When you come for me, even in my silence, I will stand, watching, waiting for my turn and time to roar.

Still snowing

I am home and feeling very poorly.