1. Be a full person. Motherhood is a glorious gift, but do
not define yourself solely by motherhood.
2. Do it together. Remember in primary school we learnt that
a verb was a ‘doing’ word? Well, a father is as much a verb as a mother.
3. Teach her that ‘gender roles’ is absolute nonsense. Do
not ever tell her that she should do or not do something “because you are a
girl.”
4. Beware the danger of what I call Feminism Lite. It is the
idea of conditional female equality. Reject this entirely. It is a hollow,
appeasing, and bankrupt idea. Being a feminist is like being pregnant. You
either are or you are not. You either believe in the full equality of women, or
you do not.
5. Teach Chizalum to read. Teach her to love books.
6. Teach her to question language. Language is the
repository of our prejudices, our beliefs, our assumptions. But to teach her
that, you will have to question your own language.
7. Never speak of marriage as an achievement.
8. Teach her to reject likeability. Her job is not to make
herself likeable, her job is to be her full self, a self that is honest and
aware of the equal humanity of other people.
9. Give Chizalum a sense of identity. It matters. Be
deliberate about it.
10. Be deliberate about how you engage with her and her
appearance.
11. Teach her to question our culture’s selective use of
biology as ‘reasons’ for social norms.
12. Talk to her about sex and start early. It will probably
be a bit awkward but it is necessary.
13. Romance will happen so be on board.
14. In teaching her about oppression, be careful not to turn
the oppressed into saints.
15. Teach her about difference. Make difference ordinary.
Make difference normal. Teach her not to attach value to difference. And the
reason for this is not to be fair or to be nice but merely to be human and
practical.
Source: http://qz.com/809813/chimamanda-adichie-has-15-suggestions-for-how-to-raise-a-feminist-child/
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