Happy New Month

Hello all, It has been a while but here I am wishing you a wonderful month!!! I have made a little drawing for you all. For those of you whom the new month did not start on a good note, it is well!!!! Joy comes in the morning!!!! Here is wishing you all a blessed month filled with God's blessings!!!

Feeling tired!!!!

I woke up yesterday morning feeling so down, so I decided not to go out and stayed in bed for some TLC. I feel a bit better today and I have not been sneezing as I did yesterday. I think I need a real break from work and uni. Well, my week is packed full with loads of meetings, giving and writing reports . I want to scream sooo much because I don't feel like it now. I really do not have the energy to do all that. I am not the most friendly person now because I am always tired. I put it down to the amount of time I spend in front of the computer writing stuff. Do you have any tips for gaining energy back after a hard day's work? Please help a sister. Have a wonderful week and hope you all are doing great?


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The month of August!!!!

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing great? I am back at my desk and I cant believe we are in the month of August!!! Time seems to be moving so fast. I have so much I want to achieve before the end of the year. I am working so hard towards achieving these goals that I set out for my self in the beginning of the year. I know I can make it  because the hand of God is in my life so He will grant me speed. I pray this month brings all the blessings of God to your life. May God continue to perfect all that concerns your life. I wish you a happy new month filled with the love of God. Have a wonderful month.

With love,

Lils

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Manners Please!!!

Hi all, I hope you are all doing great and getting set to having a lovely weekend? I am so looking forward to this weekend. I need to have a lie in and just relax. As you all know, I was in London last week and had a fantastic time. Whenever, I am in London, I always meet someone I know from way back or from Uni. So this time around, I did not meet anyone I know however, this loud mouthed guy with permed hair came to me and started behaving like the most ignorant person from some cave. He was so arrogant and cocky and wanted everyone to look at him (Not that there was anything to look at). He said to me in the most arrogant way, if I recognised him. I had to hold myself and be polite to him. I said to him that I don't know him. He went into a fury (no jokes). He started describing himself, places and I said I am sorry I do not recognise you. Now I began to think. He may have seen me somewhere but that does not mean I know him. The annoying thing is that he was so cocky and arrogant, wanting attention and everyone to notice him. I just kept my cool.He started making it out that I was being snuby and pretending not to know him.

Why would I even want to know someone like that in the first place? Anyway, why would someone want to start denying people they know? I wanted to ask the guy whether he has been part of my life or contributed to it any any shape or form for me to know him. He is not a famous person so why should I know him? I felt really annoyed and just managed not to let the ignorant guy spoil my day.

Why couldn't the guy ask politely if it is possible that we may have met somewhere? What happened to manners? To be frank, I don't think I ever want to meet this guy again talk less of speaking to him. Some men should learn manners before talking to a lady. Maybe that is  how he talks to the women in his life but I found his mannerisms quite unacceptable. My self control took over and had we not been in public, I know I would have said something rude to him in my disgust in the manner he approached things.

Dont let anyone spoil your weekend. Have a lovely and blessed weekend and chat to you all soon.

Love always,

Lils

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Forums!!!!

One of my many pleasures is reading. I love reading anything informative. My dad got me into reading when I was young. I remember that he would come home with newspapers and give them to me to read and after reading, we both discussed the issues in the papers. I have got into the habit of reading forums, blogs and in fact  any thing with  information. Yesterday,I was reading the news about this footballer who killed someone about 6 years ago. He was found guilty and sentenced accordingly. I went to the forums to read what other people's thoughts were on the issue. I found the comments very interesting. Some of the comments were just on another scale. But some comments brought home some truths. Of course, there were some racist comments thrown in here and there but some valid points were made. Some of the comments which I will not print in this post were something else. It really got me thinking. There is still so much hate out there and I hope I never meet people filled with so much hatred that they cannot stand another human being. So this is still my message, love covers a multitude of sins. Love will make this world a better place!!! Show someone an act of kindness. A genuine smile is enough for some. I am determined to continue to be a blessing to others and show people the love that I have experienced. I am also determined not to allow little minds to change me from whom God has made me to be. Be positive and show love to someone today!!!
Much love from me,

Lils

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Sending love to you all

Hello all, I had a lovely weekend in London. I went for a friends wedding and it was one of the most beautiful weddings I have been to. The bride and groom looked fantastic and so in love. It was a long journey back home. When I got back home, I decided to check my mails and facebook among other things. I noticed that I had two friend requests. I opened the one that caught my attention because it had my name. My initial thought was that maybe this person invited me because we share the same name. Well, I am one of those people who do not accept people I do not know as friends on facebook. So I decided to check out the profile of this person to see if I know him/her. I opened the person's front page and nearly passed out. The profile had my picture on it!!! Alarm bells started going off my head. Why would someone want to impersonate me? I rang my sister to tell her of what I found out. My mind and head were just going full circle. Who would stoop so low to impersonate another person? I thought people normally impersonate super stars or famous people but to impersonate me????? I could not understand or get my head around it.The shocking thing was this person had the audacity to invite me to be his/her friend. I thought of deleting my profile and coming out of facebook entirely. I wanted to warn friends to be careful of someone impersonating me... I just had a lot going on in my head.

I started to think who would be so wicked to do such a thing. Is it someone that has an issue with me or a member of my family (Which is definitely the case)? What is this sick person's plan? What does he/she want to achieve by trying to be me? Then I started to think and make a profile of this sick person in my head and the picture I saw was that of a person who needs the love of God in their lives. I mean, Why envy me? What I have and have achieved, I have done so through Hard work and God's blessings. Who I am today and where I am is by the special grace of God. There is absolutely no need to be jealous or envious of me. If you want what I have, work hard for your own and be close to God. If you are envious of who God has made me, why not draw closer to God. I mean, how can someone be so idle to be impersonating others at this day and age where people are being innovative, looking for cures for diseases, looking for solutions to the many ills in the world. How can someone not be busy with their own lives and want to be another person? The whole incident left me speechless!!!

To my impersonator, I forgive you for being so low and ignorant. Please do not use your own hand to bring destruction into your own life. I serve a God who is a consuming FIRE. God is my daddy, defender, fighter and JUSTICE!!! If you have a problem with me, deal with it. I don't want to know what your problem is with me but please, stay the hell away from me!!! I don't want to disturb my baba God with petite nonsense because your impersonating me is petite!!! My advise to you, give your life to Christ and live your OWN life!!! One love and peace to everyone!!!!

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What is with the weather????

What is with the weather? I thought we were in for a hot sunny summer but the weather has rather been quite miserable. It has been raining all week!!! And why do we care so much about the weather? I have observed that whenever I am speaking with friends on the phone, they always ask me how the weather is where I am. That is actually quite funny because in Nigeria, no one really asks you how the weather is. I have also noticed that there seems to be quite an obsession with the weather here. If it is sunny, we all feel great and on top of the world and if it is raining we all feel blue. But an important and interesting aspect that I have observed is that the weather does not stop people from carrying on with their lives. Everybody,carries on as normal. So, as long as the rain does not touch my lovely hair that I just made, I am OK. Have a wonderful day and God bless!!!

Lils

No Ramblings Today!!!

Today is such a great day!!! For the fact that I am alive and have my loved ones around me, I am grateful to God. I am all charged and ready to start the day. I am really looking forward to finishing my studies and moving on to other great, interesting and exciting stuff. I am already dreaming of what I want to do and where I want to be. It is great to dream. I remember that I have always had big dreams since I was a little child. When people asked me then what I wanted to be or do in life and I'd tell them, they'd laugh at me and say to me "you are a dreamer" or "stop living in a world of fantasy". But look at me now!!! All those dreams I had when I was younger have come to pass!!! I have achieved them all with God's love, hard work, perseverance and determination!!! To God be the glory!!!!

I am still dreaming and aiming high. I will never give up till I get there. So today, my word of encouragement is NEVER EVER give up your dreams. Keep working hard to achieve them. As long as your dreams are in line with God's will, God will perfect them all for you in due course. Keep your head high and go for it. No one says it will be an easy journey but boy at the end; you'd pat yourself and say well done!!! I did it!!

Have a blessed day

Lily

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Beautiful day + ramblings!!!!

Woke up this morning to the sound of pouring rain. Not again I murmured to myself. Where did the sunshine go to? Well, I am at my desk right now looking out to a beautiful sunny day. Makes me feel like jumping and dancing. There is something about the sun that just lifts my spirit up. Talking about feeling good about myself, I have been really happy these few days. My hormones are settled and I am back to my happy self. There are so many things I am happy and thankful to God for. They are so many that I don't know where to start!!!! I wouldn't want to be anyone but myself. I am so content in who I am and what I have. I praise God for my loved ones and my friends. Some friends I don't really keep in touch with but I know if ever I need someone to talk to, they are there for me. I appreciate all the love I have around me and promise to show love to all around me.

On the other hand, I have stopped caring about what haters say about me or what they think about me. They are not worth giving the thought of day to. I really dislike patronising people who con their way into your life only to get information so as to use against you. I know and can smell them but I pretend that I have no clue what they are on about just to make them feel they are smart. Some people really hate the air that one breathes but pretend to have the best intention when all they want is to see one fall and fail. I'd rather haters kept their distance than try and pretend they want to be friends with me. I just cant stand such people in my life.

I will make mistakes but at least I am bold and brave enough to try. I might fall but I never stay down. I get up, dust myself and move on with life. I will keep trying, keep moving and keep conquering till I get to where God has planned for me. I am happy and very bold to say that God has made me the happiest person in the world. No one can take God's sunshine away from my life. One with God is with majority. Quality and not quantity counts!!! Enough of my ramblings and back to my uni work!!!

Hugs,

Lily

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Stress and Hormones!!!!!

I was all emotional last week and I did not understand why I was being so duh!!!! I was just not nice at all. One moment I am the happiest bird in the world and the next I am at my desk at work crying my eyes out.  I did not want to speak to anyone and if anyone just said the wrong thing to me I would have jumped on them lol!!! I was wondering what was going on with me. Why is my emotion all over the place?I came to the conclusion that my emotion was all over the place because of my hormones lol (Good excuse right)? I believe work related stress contributed to it. Anyway, I am back to my normal cheery happy self now. I am going about my business as usual and will be exercising to help deal with stress. Wishing you a stress free day.


Have a lovely day!!!

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Removal of foot corn!!!

I just took at look at my feet and just couldn't believe how disfigured they are. I have very long feet and that makes it very difficult for me to find shoes that fit properly. The shoes made for long feet are so uncomfortable and the most annoying thing is that I have got painful corns on my feet from wearing these ill fitted shoes. Maybe there is a niche in the market and I have to fill that gap!!! So all you ladies with long feet do I hear you say ride on sis?????

Concerning my painful foot corns, I have googled on the net to see how I can remove these corns. I have bought corn removers and plasters to ameliorate the pain and discomfort. It scares me that I will not be able to wear my sexy high heeled shoes. I really want to be able to wear nice sexy shoes this summer and paint my toe nails but I guess I can't till I get rid of all the painful corns. I need advice on how to remove painful corns without having to go see my GP. Also, ladies with long feet, do you have problems with foot corns caused by ill fitting shoes? Your views are highly appreciated.

Have a fab week,

Lots of love,

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Weekend splash!!!!

I am finally feeling great. I have analysed and dealt with my worries over my work load. I think I needed some time to get a grip of the massive work load I had. I cannot do anything about it but to dust my feet up and get on with my work. Those who know me know that I am not a quitter!!!! So, with the help of God, I am going to climb this hill and get to the top. I hope to relax this weekend and not burn myself out with work as I usually do. I already started my weekend yesterday. I went to the theatre to watch Spamalot!!! It was hilarious!!! I will truely recommend it to anyone who wants to have a laugh and nothing serious at the theatres. I wish you all a very happy weekend.

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It is Monday!!!

I am back at Uni today and just feel absolutely tired and down. I am not in the mood to reply to any emails or to speak to anyone. I just wonder whether I am the only person that just gets really frustrated and angry with my progress. I hope I can make some progress this week. I want to finish this thesis and move on with life. I have been grumpy all week and just don't know why I am so down. I have some pretty good stuff planned for the week so maybe that will cheer me up. What do you do to lift yourself when you feel down? Have a wonderful week. God bless.

Lily

1st July 2010

Wishing you all a happy new month. Here is wishing you all the blessings and protection of God. Have a wonderful day and God bless.

With love,

Lily

Through the Storm!!!!

I was sat on the bus one day and my mind just went to another little world where there was no answers to the questions on my mind. I had loads of questions but little answers. Within a second, my mind had thought of a million stuff. In that moment, no one mattered to me. Nothing mattered to me because I did not see anything beyond that very moment. I thought to myself...."you are bruised badly"!!!! I was bruised by the experiences of life but not conquered. I learnt from my experiences that I am a fighter. I never give up. I kick back at bad experiences and fight back. There was no way I was going to let anything defeat me when God is on my side.

My faith has made me stronger and confident. I tell the devil to get behind me and trouble me no more because I bear in me the mark of Christ. I tell circumstances that only God has the last say in my life and as long as God has not said it is over, then I say it is not over yet till God says it is OVER!!! The enemy can not just write me off!!!! The storm came, it beat me, it tried to drown me, but I refused because God kept me strong and carried me through the storm. The scars are for me to show others that I was beaten but not defeated. God ALWAYS takes care of HIS own. I came out of it and so will you. Just hang on till God says it is over. You will laugh last!!! Have a wonderful day!!!!!

With love,

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Happy New Month!!!

Here is wishing you a wonderful month. I pray it brings you every good thing that you desire. What are your plans for this month? Are you going on a holiday? I want a holiday so much. I just want somewhere I can escape from all the stress of life with as few humans as possible (lol) and lots of nature surrounding me. OK, got to run now. Have a wonderful day!!!!!

Getting to know someone!!!!!

Hello everyone!!! Hope you all are having a lovely week? I sure am. I have been busy writing my theses and I am so blessed that my brain is cooperating lol!!! Some days, my brain does not just want to do any work and any thing I do is futile at that moment. OK, I just wanted to share something with you all. This week, I have been getting loads of attention from men as girls do. One gave me his business card and another wanted to get my details.But all in a nice and respectful manner. Well, today, I was waiting for a bus and this guy with gold teeth everywhere like Mike Tyson wannabe just appeared from no where. He sat next to me and said a big hello.I was just not in the mood for any chatting.I was very civil and I said hello back. As I was just about to start reading my magazine, he blurted out that he wanted to get to know me. I said very nicely that I was sorry but I don't want to get to know him as I am a married woman. He flared up that he does not care that I am a married woman. All he is after is to get to know me. He just was so aggressive.He continued his aggression and started screaming and asking me what I define as happiness? I said to him I do not want any further conversation and I went back to my papers. He shouted different things but I just kept quiet. When he got tired, he left.

I was deeply upset by this event and I felt offended that my wishes of being left alone was not respected. The whole thing was distressing. I just left it that the guy has no intelligence on how to engage with strangers. I mean, you are meeting someone for the first time and you are forcing yourself into their lives even with them clearly stating that you are not welcome into their lives. I know some people would think that I am a snub. Why cant I make friend s with a guy even though I am a married woman? Well, for one, I am married. My husband is my best friend. A male friend to me should be in the context of family friend.

And moreover,I love my space and I don't like people barging into my life. I determine who comes into my life and who does not. I am not after making unnecessary friends. I am so blessed that God has blessed me with the friends I have got. Building friendship is a gradual process to me. You don't just force your way into other people's lives. Do you think I should have sat there and engaged this guy in a conversation about myself? As a married person, would you support your partner giving their details to strangers in the name of making friends?

The sun and happiness!!!!

I woke up today and just felt really good. The sun is out again and I feel on top of the world. I just feel so happy!!! The best blessing for me is being alive and healthy with wonderful family and friends all around me. I know it sounds like a cliché now but I just feel so blessed that I have God in my life and HE has made EVERYTHING so beautiful in my life. I feel like singing songs of PRAISE!!!! Wishing you all a wonderful day filled with happiness and sunshine!!!

Beautiful day!!!!!

It was a beautiful day. The sun was out. I was happy. I had a lovely day at Faiza's house. We had the most amazing Malaysian meal. I thank God for being my God, I thank God for my health, life, family and for great friends. Love you all!!! Hope you had a lovely day?

Busy day

I have had a very busy day and now on my way to relax and have something to eat. I never knew research analysis could be such hard work. I have been giving what I thought was my best but my supervisor keeps pushing me for more. I like the way my supervisor pushes me. It means that he thinks I have got potential to do more than I am currently doing. Right now, my work just keeps changing which is quite frustrating for me. Well, maybe I just need to work harder. It is even frustrating because I just want to finish this research and move on with my life. ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRHHH!!!!! Just need to let off steam!!!!!! Hope you all are having a lovely day?

Inspiration!!!!!

Hello everyone. I hope you are all having a lovely weekend? I just got a mail from a friend and I wanted to share such an inspirational message with all of you. Here it is:

Malachi 3:3 says; 'He will sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.'

This verse puzzled some women in a bible study and they wondered what this statement meant about the character and nature of God.

One of the women offered to find out the process of refining silver and get back to the group at their next Bible Study.

That week, the woman called a silversmith and made an appointment to watch him at work. She didn't mention anything about the reason for her interest beyond her curiosity about the process of refining Silver.

As she watched the silversmith, he held a piece of silver over the fire and let it heat up. He explained that in refining silver, one needed to hold the silver in the middle of the fire where the flames were hottest as to burn away all the impurities.

The woman thought about God holding us in such a hot spot; then she thought again about the verse that says: 'He sits as a refiner and purifier of silver.' She asked the silversmith if it was true that he had to sit there in front of the fire the whole time.

The man answered that yes, he not only had to sit there holding the silver, but he had to keep his eyes on the silver the entire time it was in the fire. If the silver was left a moment too long in the flames, it would be destroyed.

The woman was silent for a moment. Then she asked the silversmith, 'How do you know when the silver is fully refined?'

He smiled at her and answered, 'Oh, that's easy -- when I see my image in it.'

If today you are feeling the heat of the fire, remember that God has his eye on you and will keep watching you until He sees His image in you.

Wow!!!! What a wonderful message. I just needed to hear this message today. Such message makes me count it all joy when God is refining me and putting me through the fire. For I know His eyes are forever on me and He will NEVER let me carry a burden too much for me. Have a wonderful weekend!!! Love from me!!!

Being Objective

Hello Everyone. I hope you are all having a wonderful day? I have just had a very busy day but thank God I survived and it is Friday!!!! Yea bring on the weekend!!!! Did any of you watch "Welcome to Lagos" in BBC? I just love the programme. In the beginning, I was a bit sceptical on what the programme's intentions were but after watching it all, I just had to clap for all the participants that took part in the programme. I had to go to the BBC site just to have a look at what people are saying about the programme. Wow!!!! There were some angry Nigerians not happy about BBC showing the slums of Lagos. I get the point some people make when they state that Western television never shows any positive side of Africa. But, may I say that this programme brought out all that is great and positive about Nigerians. If you look past the poverty, the lives of these individuals told a story of courage, hope, and survival in the face of hopelessness. I say this because I was touched by the lives of the people that took part in the programme.

So by some Nigerians saying that BBC should not have covered the slums of Lagos is just outrageous. I think it is an insult to those brave men and women who live everyday in the slums and I feel such denial is denying these great people a chance for the world to see such courageous spirit. I was so proud of their hard work, their determination not to be beaten by life, a government that simply did not care if they lived or died. I hope the government officials watched this programme and if they did, they should hang their heads in shame. How can you live when your own brother is living such a deplorable life? Only in Africa will you see a government official unashamedly exhibiting ill gotten wealth.

Back to the point that I was making. Why are some people not happy that such courageous people were used for this programme? Are we denying that these places do not exist in Nigeria? I believe that Will Anderson did a fantastic job in showing what resilient and hardworking people Nigerians are irrespective of the fact that majority of the population live in abject poverty. In the face of abject poverty, the people still love life, live life to the fullest and are still very happy people. It shows that we are built of tougher stuff and not all succumbing to life of crime and hoplessness. l believe the programme brought out more positivity in our character than if it focused on the wealthy side of Lagos and showed us as people of no character.

Signs of the end of the world?

Hello everyone. I have just been having a conversation with a colleague of mine about the recent happenings around the world. We talked about the earthquakes around the world, volcano eruptions, other disasters taking place and the tremendous human sufferings around the world. My colleague said to me that there is something about these disasters that is sending an undertone message. My question is: Are these signs of the end? Are these warnings that something of another magnitude is on its way? Those who are religious believe these are all signs of the end. My colleague said something that made me laugh. She said something around the lines of not being ready or something in that manner. I answered that if the end comes, then there is nothing to be afraid of or worry about because there is nothing to miss since there will be absolutely nothing. I did not understand myself (lol) but she did look quite intrigued by my answer. So, are you ready for the end? I know some who would say that they want to get married, have children, finish their degrees etc (lol). Do you believe in heaven? I am interested in hearing your views. Meanwhile, have a wonderful day and just enjoy life as God intended!!!!

News

Hi everyone, did you see the programme on BBC yesterday on Lagos Nigeria? It was really an eye opener. I hope the leaders of Nigeria watched it to see how the members of their communities are living. What came out most was the contentment of these hard working individuals. Those who think that they have it rough should look at these individuals and thank God for their lives. Enough said about the programme. I just read in the papers that the 16 year old girl that was shot on Wednesday has passed away. Two black boys aged between 14-18 years are suspected of committing this hideous crime. May her soul rest in perfect peace. May God give her family the strength to bear the loss. To young black kids, please please, stop the killings!!!! It aint just worth it. Get yourself an education or a job. Find a way of helping the community. There is no future in the gang or in involving yourself in evil. There will always be pay back time. Listen and be wise!!!!

Gun crime

I was just going through the papers and came across an article that caught my attention. A girl was shot in the neck in Hackney. The first thing that came to my mind is that this must be black on black crime. Surely, when I got to the bottom of the article, it said that the shooting is being dealt with by detectives from the Met's Operation Trident - the unit which investigates gun crime in the black community. I have to be careful how I voice my opinion here but what is it with black people killing one another? I am a black lady and proud of my achievements. I am always proud to see other black people doing well for themselves. However, there are some black people especially teenagers that are just a shame to see. I can never forget the day I was violently attacked on a bus by these two black guys. They wanted to get my attention and I refused to give them any and that was how I was called all the names in the world and subsequently attacked. During the commotion, I kept my cool and was just wondering why two young guys (from Nigeria) would have nothing better to do than to fight a young innocent woman. Their mates are busy working overtime and they are busy attacking a young defenceless woman. I was so ashamed of them, I felt the people in the bus was just laughing at us black people. The shame I had was that it was a fellow black person attacking me.

I tell you that that event affected me emotionally and physically. Then, if I saw any two black male, I just started shaking. I didn't want any black male seating next to me on the bus or making conversation with me because of that event. I was so affected that the Uni made me see a counsellor. Thank God I am over that now and I must add that one of the guys saw me on the same bus they attacked me and begged me to forgive him which I did. Forgiving was all the healing I needed because once I said I forgave him, all the heaviness left.

I was just discussing this black on black crime issue with a friend and she said, black people hate black people. they cant stand one another. In Africa, they are busy killing one another for one reason or the other, the leaders have no regards for its people and people have no regards for their fellow human being. Outside Africa, the hatred continues. They kill one another with guns, knives etc. Why cant we stand one another? Why cant teenagers stay out of the gang? Why must they kill to be "THE MAN"? Why all these killings? I pray that God helps all the victims of such crime.

My next question is who do we blame for these crimes? The society that has neglected these black youth? Their parents? Black community? Or the black youths themselves?

The sun!!!

Hello everyone, I cannot believe how the weekend has flown by so fast. Here I am at Uni developing a questionnaire for the project that I am working on. The weather is good and the sun is out. Talking about the sun, we had an amazing weather in the UK last weekend. I woke up early Saturday morning, got dressed and got on the train to Southport (sea side). Why waste such a glorious day sitting at home? I walked around the sea front, went into charity shops, bookshops and just capped it up by going to a Chinese restaurant to have my lunch. I was just so happy and thankful to God for being alive and healthy. The sun really does bring out the best in people. Everyone looked so happy and cheerful. I hope the weather stays this wonderful.

When to help

I was on the bus to uni and saw an elderly white man faint. His glasses was shattered and I was in so much shock and was hoping people would help him. This happened in city centre. There were people passing him and nobody seemed to care or wanted to help him. I then saw two black men and one cautiously approached the man, said something to the man and the elderly man gave the black man his hand and was helped up. I really hope the elderly man is getting all the medical treatment he needs and is doing OK. I thank God for the good Samaritan that helped the man. I believe God put him there at that particular time for a reason.

This brings the topic about helping others to my mind. Many people have horror stories of how helping others have backfired on them. I read on a paper few weeks ago of a woman that helped a little boy off a tree. The police was called and she was questioned. I know someone with the heart of gold who would help anyone in distress and what does she get paid with? Evil!!!!There was this widow this person I know housed. This widow was housed free of charge for 5 years living in this person's house without paying any bills or any expenses. After 5 years, this person I know found another house for the widow and paid the rent for this widow. But as human beings will ever be (Very predictable), this widow went mad insulting the woman that helped her as to why she should leave (remember it is not her house). Anyway, when the widow eventually went to the house that was rented for her my this person I know, she started going everywhere bad mouthing this wonderful woman that helped her for 5 years. How wicked can some people be for goodness sake. When I heard this story and I was in shock!!!! But nothing that humans do now ever really move me that much.

Had I not been on the bus when the old man fainted, I would have helped the man. I would put myself out to help others. I asked my mum. Would all the evil you were paid for doing good ever deter you from helping others? She answered me, NEVER!!! She will keep doing good for the rest of her life. I have the same spirit as my mum and dad. I will keep doing good for the rest of my life no matter how evil some people can be, no matter if I am paid evil for the good I have done.

New hair

I had my hair done today. I finally don't have to do much styling with my hair as I had it braided. I don't know if I like the way I look now with this hairdo. I think I look too wild (lol). I dislike any form of attention and boy did I get loads today. I saw a guy on the bus literally staring at me. Gosh!!! He was also smiling at me. God knows what was going on in his head. He may just be wondering why I had such a ridiculous hair style on me (lol). I hope I can settle into this hairstyle and get on with other things. The last thing I want to bother me is worrying about my hair. That was the reason I had it done in the first place. Have you ever had your hair done and come out looking like something else? LOL!!! Share please!!!!!

Easter Break

Hello all. Hope you had a lovely break? I did have a very restful break. I needed the break and I must say I really had a swell time. I went to church over the Easter break and the sermon just reminded me how loved I am. I just look at what God did for me on the Cross of Calvary!!! Wow!!! That just throws me. Holiday is now over and I am back to my usual busy self. I've had two meetings today. I have loads to do and I pray God gives me the wisdom and knowledge to get it all done.

Happy new month

Here is wishing you all a happy new month. I pray that the month brings joy, laughter and happiness to us all. For those celebrating Easter, have a wonderful celebration having in mind what God did for us because of his love for us. I hope to have a wonderful time this holiday. I will let you all know what I have been up to (That is if I get to do some exciting stuff). Ciao from me for now!!!

Ovulation

Hello all, I am going to be asking some personal questions about ovulation and conception. I have done some extensive research on the web about this subject and found that there are numerous guides and articles to give almost every information there is about this subject. But what I am after is the personal experiences which are few online. Well, I will start with my experience. My periods are regular every month but I don't have the normal 28 days many women seem to have.Some months it can be 31 days and other months 40 days. I have not been using ovulation sticks or kits that can help tell if one is ovulating or not. I may have to invest in one of them but pray I don't have to. Ovulation kits are not cheap and can cost a lot so I am asking are there any other signs a woman can use to know when she ovulates? I have heard about temping which is taking one's basal body temperature (first thing in the morning).I may sound silly but which body part is this temperature taken from? I need answers because I need to be educated in this aspect and like many women, I would like to have children some day and ovulation is one of the vital things important in conception.

My day

Today has been a very wonderful day. I got some work done and I also deactivated my facebook account to help me focus on my studies. I am going to miss chatting and communicating with my friends. I feel that it is time to put away facebook and concentrate on my studies. I am blessed with the most amazing people as friends and I appreciate my friends and family. They are really fantastic and I just feel so blessed to have so many wonderful people around me. So for all my facebook friends, I miss you all. I shall be back once I have done some tangible work on my research but as for now, take care and God bless. Much love.

My day

I have a very busy day today. Loads of meetings and emails to be sent. I love working and seeing the outcomes of all my hard work. I was just thinking about what I want to do after my research. I have learnt not to be too rigid with my desires but to allow God to move in my life whatever way he wants. After all, He created us and has greater plans for us than ourselves. Wishing you all a wonderful weekend.

Today!!!!!

Today was international food day at my university for PhD researchers. We had a lovely time. There were different tasty meals from all over the world. I made fried plantain so that everyone can join in (both vegetarians and meat eaters lol). Everyone wore their native wear. It was also a great opportunity to mingle and discuss other things outside of research topics etc. I will add some pictures later.

Question???

I was watching comic sports relief last night and they showed this HIV project in Nairobi, Kenya.
The statistics of people living with HIV/AIDS was unbelievable. The average person lives to his/her 40s (life expectancy). Children are orphaned by parents who have died of the disease. There was a story in that programme that caught my attention and brought tears to my eyes. There was this lady whose husband has 3 wives. The second wife died of AIDS so she came to the centre to be tested. The lady tested positive to HIV on the programme. The shock on the woman's face was just so touching. Immediately, my thoughts just went to the woman's husband. How could he do this to her or to all the women he married? I then thought, why would any woman want to be with a man as his second, third etc. wife with the tale of HIV/AIDS paramount? My thoughts did not stop there. I thought of innocent partners whose other halves have played away without protection. I mean do people have a moral obligation to the ones they are with to protect their lives?

I just think sometimes people are so selfish. They do not think of the effects and consequences of their actions on others. Do people still make the mistake of sleeping around without protection? Why would a married man know that he has got a wife at home and yet live recklessly and then bring whatever he caught to his innocent wife at home or vice versa? The question in my mind is how come a whole village is almost wiped out by this disease? Is it due to promiscuity? Is it living in denial that the disease exist? Is it poverty? Thank God for those helping out in these communities.

No to violence

I just read about the explosion in Warri Nigeria. A woman lost her life as a result of the explosion. It is sad that the frustration of the people has gotten to the level that civil dialogue cannot take place. Everyday, I fear for the innocent citizens of Nigeria. Lives are not valued any more and the politicians seem not to care for its citizens. I am praying for Nigeria as I do not know what I can do to help for now. I do not want to be one of those that name the many ills of the country without solutions. I think of solutions everyday for my dear motherland. I am very passionate about development not only for Nigeria but for the whole of Africa. We cannot get anywhere with violence. I know many are not happy but please they should respect lives that they did not have hand in creating. In developed countries you do not see people bombing places just because they disagree with issues.

I want Nigerians to be known for great things. I don't want to be ashamed of where I come from. I don't believe in violence. Violence never gets any answers. Please let there be peace and if you are not happy with issues that affect you, follow the right channels and if your grievance is not addressed now, find ways of getting the issues addressed at least you are doing something positive. But then again, the people that commit such crimes are criminals (educated or not). They kill to get cheap thrills and they use the money from kidnapping their own people to buy weapons to kill their own people in the name of emancipation. Shame on all the criminals!!!

What are your views on the latest events in Niger Delta? Do you agree that there is still a chance for civilised dialogue or has things gone so bad that it is beyond any form of dialogue?

Sources: Nigerian Vanguard (http://www.vanguardngr.com/)

Decision on male circumcision!!!

I was just having a discussion with a good friend and we some how got talking about our cultures. He mentioned that in his culture, it is not mandatory to circumcise males and I said that in mine it is normal culturally to circumcise male children. He then asked me if I will be willing to circumcise my son when I have one. This got me thinking and I researched a bit into this because sometimes, one follows culture without knowing the meaning or the need for such culture. I found out that there are medical reasons to circumcise males (I am not into female circumcision neither is it in my culture). I don't know if it is mandatory by religion or by medical research. What if one's partner does not agree with male circumcision? What would you do if you had a son and you believed in male circumcision but your partner does not? Are there any particular reasons why people circumcise males and if so what are these reasons? Did you circumcise your male child or not?

God have mercy!!!!!

I am in shock as to what is happening in Nigeria. Who are these evil people that committed such atrocity? May God have mercy and give strength to those who have lost loved ones and properties!!!!! Please help pray for Nigeria!!!!!

Weekend here we come!!!!

I am always happy when the weekend comes. It means rest and spending time with my family and friends. Today is such a beautiful day. Beautiful days just makes me happy. I have a lot of uni work to do. I will try and do some reading and maybe some writing. My supervisor always says that a PhD is 80% thinking and 20% doing. He is right. You have got to do a lot of thinking when doing a PhD. It has been a journey. I knew what I was getting into when I registered for it but never knew it was such a challenging journey. I am encouraged by those who have passed the same road and made it. Wishing you all a wonderful weekend!!!

Weekend here we come!!!

I am so looking forward to this weekend. I have a lot of things I am going to be doing with family. I enjoy cooking so I will be doing some of that. I do find cooking quite therapeutic. I cook even when I am not going to eat the food. I enjoy cooking for friends but it has been a while since I cooked for friends. I hope to start making time to invite friends around and cook something nice for them.
Wishing you all a wonderful weekend and for those of you in Manchester, if you are looking for what to do this weekend, there is a revival taking place at New Harvest Christian Fellowship at Salford. Much love from me.

Troubled soul!!!!!

What to do when all you can see is total darkness? How can a troubled and hurt soul be healed? When all one sees is troubled waters everywhere and barely trying not to drown. Tears tears everywhere. Pain shooting through every part of the heart. I heard there is someone who can save. God help in this time of trouble. I heard you can deliver Lord. Deliver from every act of wickedness and cause those who dig a pit for the innocent, to be trapped and consumed by their own wickedness!!!

Thinking!!!!

Why do some human beings cause pain to other human beings? Why do people find it pleasurable to hurt others? God made this world so beautiful and I am blessed that God has placed wonderful people all around me. I hope that I can bring joy and happiness to everyone I come in contact with. Do you think some people are just plain evil? I do not know for I am just thinking aloud!!!!

Welcome!!!!

Hello everyone!!!! I was off blogging for a long time as I had a lot of uni work to do. I hope you all have had a fantastic holiday? I had a lovely holiday. I went to a little village near the seaside. I must say I had a brilliant time. I am currently working sooo hard to finish my research so put me in your prayers. Thanks for stopping by and I wouldn't mind you sharing what you did over the Xmas break.

Ciao!!!!